To get rid of over-responsibility it is necessary to change this habit by no longer taking over the work of the other person unasked. Your possible negative feelings (e.g. guilt, fear …) and thoughts (they will blame me, …) will continue for a while, but they will gradually decrease. The physiological process responsible for the gradual reduction and disappearance of these thoughts and feelings is called extinction. Extinction is a neuropsychological phenomenon that has been extensively demonstrated. It is important that you practice frequently. Furthermore, it is important to act consistently. By this we mean that you never take over unsolicited work again. This is necessary because otherwise these negative feelings and thoughts do not diminish.
Make a conscious choice now:
I will no longer take over the work of the other person without being asked and I will endure the difficult feelings and thoughts until they extinguish and I eliminate this risk factor for burn-out!
In the next lesson we will discuss the last personal risk factor in this series of lessons, namely ‘Unhealthy Perfectionism’.